Those with Fuck Buddies, Little 3s 小三, Friends with benefits fall in....

[chubbybastard]

Originally Posted by dman19

So true. When your girl manages to press all the right buttons or when the moment of lust comes or that little moment when small head claims a minor victory over big head, the beast inside you is released and dopamine takes over after that deciding how often or frequently it happens again. And then maybe for moments your life goes back to black and white again waiting for this next cycle to kick in. If you are able to break this cycle, I salute your self-control. But for a sexless marriage like mine, it’s way too hard with all these temptations.

Why do you stay married then? Got kids? If no kids just sign the papers. I always advocate being single. All the lovey dovey stuff is only during courtship.

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by dman19

So true. When your girl manages to press all the right buttons or when the moment of lust comes or that little moment when small head claims a minor victory over big head, the beast inside you is released and dopamine takes over after that deciding how often or frequently it happens again. And then maybe for moments your life goes back to black and white again waiting for this next cycle to kick in. If you are able to break this cycle, I salute your self-control. But for a sexless marriage like mine, it’s way too hard with all these temptations.

yeah and when you have someone out of your sexless marriage and the girl cheats on you?

damn if you do, damn if you don't. Been there, live goes on

[dman19]

Originally Posted by chubbybastard

Why do you stay married then? Got kids? If no kids just sign the papers. I always advocate being single. All the lovey dovey stuff is only during courtship.

Got kids, and I still love my wife. Just that its hard to get the sex out of her these days

[Penguin23]

Originally Posted by dman19

Got kids, and I still love my wife. Just that its hard to get the sex out of her these days

So how does your wife expect you to "settle" your needs?

Can't possibly be using your right (or left) hand

[dman19]

Originally Posted by Penguin23

So how does your wife expect you to "settle" your needs?

Can't possibly be using your right (or left) hand

Yeah she totally not interested these days, literally she ask me to use my hands when I try to initiate any intimacy... well that's why I'm this thread. Eventually I found a fwb and had the best sex in my life. Not sure how long it will last, but every meetup is banging good and I'm sure she have some feelings for me so sometimes need constantly remind each other that our relationship cannot go beyond fwb status otherwise must call it off

[thediviner]

Originally Posted by dman19

Yeah she totally not interested these days, literally she ask me to use my hands when I try to initiate any intimacy... well that's why I'm this thread. Eventually I found a fwb and had the best sex in my life. Not sure how long it will last, but every meetup is banging good and I'm sure she have some feelings for me so sometimes need constantly remind each other that our relationship cannot go beyond fwb status otherwise must call it off

That's what sometimes wives should be sensitive to, that because they often refuse, many other women will help your husband, with any media.

[4rchdevil]

Originally Posted by dman19

Yeah she totally not interested these days, literally she ask me to use my hands when I try to initiate any intimacy... well that's why I'm this thread. Eventually I found a fwb and had the best sex in my life. Not sure how long it will last, but every meetup is banging good and I'm sure she have some feelings for me so sometimes need constantly remind each other that our relationship cannot go beyond fwb status otherwise must call it off

There will be an emotional bond if it continues with your fwb. and it could possibly cause problems for your marriage. Have you ever discussed it with your wife about you and your wife sex life ?

[dman19]

Originally Posted by 4rchdevil

There will be an emotional bond if it continues with your fwb. and it could possibly cause problems for your marriage. Have you ever discussed it with your wife about you and your wife sex life ?

No, never officially discussed this. Don’t know how to bring it up also. Just that whenever I ask, she don’t give and I say already so long. Then she will lovingly say must go pcc ok…. Lol

That emotional bond with my fwb somewhat already there otherwise no way we could hit that level of lovemaking. Just hope it remains this way. For all I know my fwb has no interest in any advancement due to her busy schedule and her life goals which is good for us both and remain strictly as fwb.

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by Penguin23

So how does your wife expect you to "settle" your needs?

Can't possibly be using your right (or left) hand

think mine doesn't care. didn't care for a decade so went to settle it myself

[TheIdesOfMarch]

Originally Posted by dman19

Yeah she totally not interested these days, literally she ask me to use my hands when I try to initiate any intimacy... well that's why I'm this thread. Eventually I found a fwb and had the best sex in my life. Not sure how long it will last, but every meetup is banging good and I'm sure she have some feelings for me so sometimes need constantly remind each other that our relationship cannot go beyond fwb status otherwise must call it off

Full disclaimer: I am not a lawyer.

If I were you I'd be secretly recording down a couple of times you have this convo with your wife and she tells you to go and use your hands. If you can trigger an actual argument with her where she candidly tells you in a fit of anger or whatever that she no longer has any interest in making your marriage with her a sexually fulfilling or even active one, even better for you.

Then keep the recordings and go have your FWB extramarital sex life. They will be useful in future to protect yourself with in best case scenario of you initiating divorce citing irretrievable breakdown of marriage due to breakdown in intimacy, or in worst case scenario if she finds out about you fucking someone outside and wants a divorce with you, those recordings can come in handy when played to the judge in court to demonstrate that the marriage breakdown isn't 100% down to you committing adultery outside.

My personal view though? Mai tu liao, divorce is better than being stuck in a sexless loveless marriage.

[dman19]

Originally Posted by TheIdesOfMarch

Full disclaimer: I am not a lawyer.

If I were you I'd be secretly recording down a couple of times you have this convo My personal view though? Mai tu liao, divorce is better than being stuck in a sexless loveless marriage.

Well I do love her, and got kids plus she’s an amazing mum to my kids so this thought has not crossed my mind. I’ll just ride it out whichever way it goes. Tbh if really sexless loveless and childless, really should divorce

[4rchdevil]

Originally Posted by TheIdesOfMarch

Full disclaimer: I am not a lawyer.

If I were you I'd be secretly recording down a couple of times you have this convo with your wife and she tells you to go and use your hands. If you can trigger an actual argument with her where she candidly tells you in a fit of anger or whatever that she no longer has any interest in making your marriage with her a sexually fulfilling or even active one, even better for you.

Then keep the recordings and go have your FWB extramarital sex life. They will be useful in future to protect yourself with in best case scenario of you initiating divorce citing irretrievable breakdown of marriage due to breakdown in intimacy, or in worst case scenario if she finds out about you fucking someone outside and wants a divorce with you, those recordings can come in handy when played to the judge in court to demonstrate that the marriage breakdown isn't 100% down to you committing adultery outside.

My personal view though? Mai tu liao, divorce is better than being stuck in a sexless loveless marriage.

should it be like that? isn't it, even though we might have to divorce in the end, we just need the main reason to want to separate and not be able to be together anymore.

[Madisons]

Originally Posted by dman19

Well I do love her, and got kids plus she’s an amazing mum to my kids so this thought has not crossed my mind. I’ll just ride it out whichever way it goes. Tbh if really sexless loveless and childless, really should divorce

About children is always a consideration in decisions.