Should continue chasing?

[acidicavex]

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It seem like she not ready for another r/s maybe her last marriage scar her deeply.

[discordpiggy]

Originally Posted by demonhunter

I give free therapy .... make women believe in men again .

try me! i totally lost it

[eugene_wong]

Originally Posted by Advanced

Need some advice from bros/sis, this might be a little lengthy.
I know that she have other suitors, and i know its common thing for girls..

Her short background:


I been chasing her for more then 6months now, can't really remember the exact date i started to have more then just simple crush on her.

At start, i met her in a pub; she previously worked in as a cashier.
She always been rejecting my invitation for supper(after her work) or even lunch(before her work) during the start.

I did some mistakes like texting telling her I liked her, was rejected by her previously telling me she treat me as friend and she have no intention of going into relationship currently.

that didn't stop me from chasing her and i still continue interacting with her hoping that she would at least give me a chance even after being rejected


3 months pass and she switch job, i managed to actually ask her out 3 times full day, once with her friends, another two time was going shopping with her and simple dinner and movie before dropping her home on cab.
p.s. i noticed that she mention she stays at "blk xxx" but notice that she did not actually go to the blk she said when the cab left.

There was once she text me when she was back in her hometown telling me she was worried sick that shes noticed her dropping hair, and saying shes afraid to tell anyone even her family members.
But of cause i dare not say that i'm the only one she told to.


Before her birthday told her i wanted to celebrate her birthday with her after her work, but was rejected saying there isn't any need to celebrate her birthday.
Try my luck on the night of her birthday, and she actually agreed to meet up for just plain supper before sending her home. Even through its just plain supper, i really felt happy.
Not sure if i did the right thing as some bro did mention that showering gift isn't a good idea.

But as i thought it was her birthday, so i brought her a necklace and bracelet which cost me a bomb, and not sure if its due to it being expensive or she did appreciated my thoughts.
(I know bro here gonna scold me for buying expensive stuff which cost 1k for a girl whose not even my girlfriend yet).. she did say she wanna pay me for the bracelet as she don't want owe me too much
p.s i'm not rich and merely earning just nice for myself.
Till now i'm still the one who start the texting, always trying to find something to talk to with her.
I have try calling but usually ends up with no one answering the phone. And she will text me back telling me she just woke up etc.. reason
I wanna ask bros/sis here, what could i actually do?

In the movie world yes, you will able to chase the girl if you are good man and persistent enough. In the real world, it will be the opposite....

[eugene_wong]

Usually guy chasing girl, it is either no or little chasing required before success. If a guy has been chasing a girl long time, it means the girl doesn't like him and likely things won't change...

[Ecuader]

Change target. From what you described, she's not interested in you.
Divest b4 its too late. After all the effort and money you spent, you could not even hold her hand.

Its clear that your efforts will not bear any fruits.
Give up now.

[Advanced]

Originally Posted by Ecuader

Change target. From what you described, she's not interested in you.
Divest b4 its too late. After all the effort and money you spent, you could not even hold her hand.

Its clear that your efforts will not bear any fruits.
Give up now.

lol i dont dare hold le.. lol
in cab always find it abit embarrassing or awkward.
then walking, always forgot

[demonhunter]

Originally Posted by discordpiggy

try me! i totally lost it

But I scared I get hurt le ....

[justl00king]

Originally Posted by Advanced

lol i dont dare hold le.. lol
in cab always find it abit embarrassing or awkward.
then walking, always forgot

Bro, must adopt the Nike formula!

Just sharing, for my first date, try to hold her hand. Eg, when crossing a busy street or moving around in a crowded place. Nothing wrong being the gentleman n lead the way. After the date, have a good nite kiss, either just a peck on the face or lips is fine.
If all goes well and she's keen on a 2nd date, time to plan for some action

U'll be surprised that some gals now prefer to take initiative, they'll come hold your hand instead and get really close to u.
So no guts no glory bro, just do it! good luck!

[Advanced]

Originally Posted by justl00king

Bro, must adopt the Nike formula!

Just sharing, for my first date, try to hold her hand. Eg, when crossing a busy street or moving around in a crowded place. Nothing wrong being the gentleman n lead the way. After the date, have a good nite kiss, either just a peck on the face or lips is fine.
If all goes well and she's keen on a 2nd date, time to plan for some action

U'll be surprised that some gals now prefer to take initiative, they'll come hold your hand instead and get really close to u.
So no guts no glory bro, just do it! good luck!

will try rmb the holding hand part.. i later hold tio her wrist how?

[lostlilvirg]

Dear Advanced,

From what I understand from what you wrote, it seems that she is going out of her way to discourage interest from you. She strikes me as wanting to maintain a friendly, but platonic, relationship with you instead of a romantic one. It feels like you're a little too much in crush, to the point of besottment with her.

Yes, buying such an extravagant gift was a little overboard, but it's done, so no use crying over spilt milk. I actually like some of the suggestions here. You DO need to just ball up and effing do it. DO something, but please please please don't try the "confess" again. You've already done it once, she knows very well how you feel. Maybe her mind has changed, maybe it hasn't. But nothing ventured, nothing gained. Try to hold her hand, DON'T OVER THINK! If you hold her wrist, then hold her wrist. After crossing the road, getting out of the crowd, or whtever your excuse was, don't release her, until she makes you.

If she does make you release her, she is clearly not interested in THAT kind of relationship.

I don't think she has led you on, but like some other posters said, she might be waiting for you to take the initiative. If you don't do anything, all the angst and anxiety will be for nothing. Try it. If you fail, no regrets and you won't be wasting more time with her in terms of romance. If you succeed, then you're happy.

Please man up and know WHEN to walk away. If she rebuffs you, then it is her choice. No matter how much jewellery you buy her, no matter how many times you confess, it won't change her mind. She will like you for you, or not at all.

Just my 2 cents'

Oh, and good luck!

[fion.18]

Originally Posted by demonhunter

But I scared I get hurt le ....

You need to enroll for the fion's anti heartbreak class

[89NottiBoy]

move on bro. she is full of baggage..

[NottiSex]

Advance, I don't think she is interested in you at all. If she like you she will make time for you and she won't say not free this and that.

To make urself feel better maybe just go confess get rejected and let the matter rest and move on.

Long term relationship need to be mutual. It cannot be one sided.

[juzforfun]

Hi dude...sounds like she doesn't seem to have much interest in you. I would like to suggest to take it easy, spend time on your hobbies, make new friends etc. She obviously knows how you feel and if she wants to take a step further, she would initiate and give you many opportunities. End of the day, such thing can't be forced, she should also be afraid of losing your interest in her. If she wants to be with you, you would know it. Just occupy your time for other things n just maintain a friendship with her to see how the future goes. You definitely can do without her in your life so cheer up

[justl00king]

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