First time sex

[jia79]

is it true that a female virgin will experience very painful sex during her first sex?

[tikus69]

If the female is aroused and her vagina is lubricated, there should be little discomfort. If you are in doubt, try using lubricants for your first encounter.

I don't think there's any pain. But, then again, pain is a very subjective matter. Some people have higher tolerance than others. In any case, be gentle on the girl and she will appreciate it.

[tora69]

First, are you really sure you are ready?

All these factors affect risk of AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases.) Have you discussed birth control options, and do you both agree that even if you use some other form of contraception that you will always wear a condom? If you haven't done the above, then you are definitely not ready to have sex.

The first time a woman has sex may be painful -- and it may not. If she had been using tampons, that may have helped to stretch her hymen. If you and your partner truly care for each other and you are gentle and understanding and will go slowly, then there may be less discomfort.

Often, the first time a woman has sex there will be some bleeding as the hymen is torn. Using large amounts of a water-based lubricant (water-based lubricants will not harm the condoms I know you'll use!) may help. Communication is key -- if it hurts and she say "stop" or "slow down," you must listen to your partner and respect her wishes.

Enjoy sex, but be safe than sorry!

[KID278]

Originally posted by jia79
is it true that a female virgin will experience very painful sex during her first sex?

what do you think....:p

Cheers.
Kid278.

[viewsonic]

It's really depend on individual girl.
Some like it but some not.

It takes my wife few years to realise that making love is a wonderful actvity in part of our life. (she used to complain alot, pain, tired, boring, disguting......)

But I did come across some girl who are really desperate for sex. My friend Girlfriend, she demand 6 rounds of sex section in one night from my friend. Almost every week, He will spend three nights together with his girlfriend. (He told me, his girlfriend want it) Sometimes she even told my friend, if he don't please her in the bed, she will go to pose in GL. Where she can enjoy herself n on the same time collect $$$.

Whenever she met some of my friends, she will tried to be veri friendly n with them (can tell that she try to seduce them). Although her boyfriend is together with us, she don't care at all.

[KID278]

Originally posted by viewsonic
It's really depend on individual girl.
Some like it but some not.

It takes my wife few years to realise that making love is a wonderful actvity in part of our life. (she used to complain alot, pain, tired, boring, disguting......)

But I did come across some girl who are really desperate for sex. My friend Girlfriend, she demand 6 rounds of sex section in one night from my friend. Almost every week, He will spend three nights together with his girlfriend. (He told me, his girlfriend want it) Sometimes she even told my friend, if he don't please her in the bed, she will go to pose in GL. Where she can enjoy herself n on the same time collect $$$.

Whenever she met some of my friends, she will tried to be veri friendly n with them (can tell that she try to seduce them). Although her boyfriend is together with us, she don't care at all.

you are out of context.....:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

[OceanEleven]

Originally posted by KID278
you are out of context.....:D

Cheers.
Kid278.
You are CRUDE........:D

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally posted by OceanEleven
You are CRUDE........:D

He is being rudimentary, no offence please. :p

[KID278]

Originally posted by OceanEleven
You are CRUDE........:D

Am I?.....well, I always speak my mind and subtly.....:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

[KID278]

Originally posted by Rof|maoxz
He is being rudimentary, no offence please. :p

Nope, on the contrary I am much more refined and matured than you can imagine.......hehehe......:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

[tikus69]

Originally posted by viewsonic
It's really depend on individual girl.
Some like it but some not.

It takes my wife few years to realise that making love is a wonderful actvity in part of our life. (she used to complain alot, pain, tired, boring, disguting......)

But I did come across some girl who are really desperate for sex. My friend Girlfriend, she demand 6 rounds of sex section in one night from my friend. Almost every week, He will spend three nights together with his girlfriend. (He told me, his girlfriend want it) Sometimes she even told my friend, if he don't please her in the bed, she will go to pose in GL. Where she can enjoy herself n on the same time collect $$$.

Whenever she met some of my friends, she will tried to be veri friendly n with them (can tell that she try to seduce them). Although her boyfriend is together with us, she don't care at all.

Wow! Maybe some brudders here can help to satisfy this girl! I know some girls are naturally horny and need sex more than others. Hopefully the men can keep up if they have one as a gf. Generally, the sexual maturity of males and females different. Men tend to be more active in their late twenties while women become active only in their thirties. So, that's why some men prefer older women!

Just my two cents worth...

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally posted by KID278
Nope, on the contrary I am much more refined and matured than you can imagine.......hehehe......:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

Orh, the guru has replied! :p

[OceanEleven]

Originally posted by jia79
is it true that a female virgin will experience very painful sex during her first sex?
It really depends, it depends on you use a dick or a huge cucumber during her first sex..........:D

[OceanEleven]

Originally posted by KID278
Nope, on the contrary I am much more refined and matured than you can imagine.......hehehe......:D
Cheers.
Kid278.
OK will try to imagine now........:D

[Rof|maoxz]

Bro OceanEleven also woke up so early arh? Good day man! :p

[OceanEleven]

Originally posted by Rof|maoxz
Bro OceanEleven also woke up so early arh? Good day man! :p
Goooood Morning...... I was here quite long liao, only didn't see you. How your stories so far?:D

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally posted by OceanEleven
Goooood Morning...... I was here quite long liao, only didn't see you. How your stories so far?:D

What story lah brudder?? "Wo Bu Ming Bai" :rolleyes:

[OceanEleven]

Originally posted by Rof|maoxz
What story lah brudder?? "Wo Bu Ming Bai" :rolleyes:
Like your quote below lor, GF issue lor.........When it comes to the matter of the heart, it's difficult to control...........:D

[KID278]

Originally posted by OceanEleven
Like your quote below lor, GF issue lor.........When it comes to the matter of the heart, it's difficult to control...........:D

The heart is fragile, dont control it.....handle it......:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

[OceanEleven]

Originally posted by KID278
The heart is fragile, dont control it.....handle it......:D
Cheers.
Kid278.
Like a wise old man , lurking around and giveing advise.....:D

[KID278]

Originally posted by OceanEleven
Like a wise old man , lurking around and giveing advise.....:D

Just some bum steer, you know what I mean......:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

[jia79]

anyone can give advice?

my gal keeping screaming for pain everytime we try to have sex..... is this possible for a V ?

[KID278]

Originally posted by jia79
anyone can give advice?

my gal keeping screaming for pain everytime we try to have sex..... is this possible for a V ?

Screaming for pain or of pain? There's great difference do you know that? Assuming it's of pain then for a gal that has not have sexual intercourse before it's naturally normal. Given that she's a virgin the first or second time there might be some tearing of tissues resulting in pain is quite possible. But what that follows if there's still pain then it suggest something else. Either she's frigid or there is medical problem with her vagina.:p

Cheers.
Kid278

[jia79]

of pain i mean....

u mean she should endure it? but it seems like its too much pain leh

any idea to lessen it ??
Originally posted by KID278
Screaming for pain or of pain? There's great difference do you know that? Assuming it's of pain then for a gal that has not have sexual intercourse before it's naturally normal. Given that she's a virgin the first or second time there might be some tearing of tissues resulting in pain is quite possible. But what that follows if there's still pain then it suggest something else. Either she's frigid or there is medical problem with her vagina.:p

Cheers.
Kid278

[fun4evergood]

Originally posted by jia79
of pain i mean....

u mean she should endure it? but it seems like its too much pain leh

any idea to lessen it ??

DO more foreplay or apply KY loh

[KID278]

Originally posted by jia79
of pain i mean....

u mean she should endure it? but it seems like its too much pain leh

any idea to lessen it ??

Yes, endure it. Too much pain, it's only for the first time. Gals usually can take the pain if they want to, besides having sex there's joy to overcome pain. Just look at a woman during labour, the baby is many times bigger than any prick and there's much more pain not to mention no joy yet they can endure it.

Never have I ever heard of gals administering painkiller when they have sex, it may kill the pain but it also kills the joy. Excuse my bluntness but I believe you are not very good in your foreplay. Concentrate on more foreplay till she's fully aroused and wet and wanting penetration, the joy will help her overcome the pain. If the gal is slightly frigid you'll need longer foreplay and lubricant. Some gals when it's their first time they have phobias, you have to use force to help them get thru that barrier. You get past that first penetration, the rest will just be history....:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

[jia79]

i tried everything u mentioned already
but she still gets lots of pain.... i also think that its pain she has to endure...but it seems that the pain is really too bad... i also feel 'sin tong'


Originally posted by KID278
Yes, endure it. Too much pain, it's only for the first time. Gals usually can take the pain if they want to, besides having sex there's joy to overcome pain. Just look at a woman during labour, the baby is many times bigger than any prick and there's much more pain not to mention no joy yet they can endure it.

Never have I ever heard of gals administering painkiller when they have sex, it may kill the pain but it also kills the joy. Excuse my bluntness but I believe you are not very good in your foreplay. Concentrate on more foreplay till she's fully aroused and wet and wanting penetration, the joy will help her overcome the pain. If the gal is slightly frigid you'll need longer foreplay and lubricant. Some gals when it's their first time they have phobias, you have to use force to help them get thru that barrier. You get past that first penetration, the rest will just be history....:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

[cheongkid]

Originally posted by jia79
i tried everything u mentioned already
but she still gets lots of pain.... i also think that its pain she has to endure...but it seems that the pain is really too bad... i also feel 'sin tong'
i suggest she seek medical help. sometimes it's just the psychological side. if so, talk to a sex counsellor.

[jia79]

Originally posted by cheongkid
i suggest she seek medical help. sometimes it's just the psychological side. if so, talk to a sex counsellor.

u mean she may be scare of it ?

[KID278]

Originally posted by jia79
i tried everything u mentioned already
but she still gets lots of pain.... i also think that its pain she has to endure...but it seems that the pain is really too bad... i also feel 'sin tong'

Unless her vagina has a medical problem, like I say you have to bring yourself to use force for that first time or you'll never get to bonk her. I'm not saying that you go rape her but maybe apply more KY and use forced penetration with her consent. You'll be sorry for not being able to do that and you will be more sorry if she really needs a bonk and someone else beats you to it. No one else can help you in such things unless you want to see a counsellor or doctor which will probably say the same thing. You want to 'sin tong' for once or 'sin tong' after losing her the choice is yours, think about it.....:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

[fun4evergood]

Originally posted by jia79
i tried everything u mentioned already
but she still gets lots of pain.... i also think that its pain she has to endure...but it seems that the pain is really too bad... i also feel 'sin tong'

Maybe she is to "gan cheong", make she relax and make sure she dont contact her hole.....relax is the key word......worst go and consult a doctor

[Rof|maoxz]

Better solve the problem fast b4 she get phobia for sex. :p

[cheongkid]

Originally posted by Rof|maoxz
Better solve the problem fast b4 she get phobia for sex. :p
that's genophobia.

[KID278]

Originally posted by cheongkid
that's genophobia.

right, then there is also coitophobia......:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

[fun4evergood]

Originally posted by KID278
right, then there is also coitophobia......:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

Then there is also blurphobia.

[KID278]

Originally posted by fun4evergood
Then there is also blurphobia.

Do you have it?....I never heard of this term before.....:D

Cheers.
KId278.

[fun4evergood]

Originally posted by KID278
Do you have it?....I never heard of this term before.....:D

Cheers.
KId278.

Just pulling ur legs lah.....so blur

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally posted by fun4evergood
Then there is also blurphobia.

I thought it means blur cock.

[KID278]

Originally posted by fun4evergood
Just pulling ur legs lah.....so blur

In case you dont know, that was my cryptic reply...:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

[tora69]

To all brudders,

Relaxlah....
----------------------------------------------------

First Time!
--------------


The sky was dark
The moon was high
All alone just she and I
Her hair was soft
Her eyes were blue
I knew just what
She wanted to do
Her skin so soft
Her legs so fine
I ran my fingers
Down her spine
I didn't know how
But I tried my best
I started by placing
My hands on her breast
I remember my fear
My fast beating heart
But slowly she spread
Her legs apart
And when I did it
I felt no shame
All at once
The white stuff came
At last it's finished
It's all over now
My first time ever
At milking a cow.....

[lament]

On the whole, sex is not entirely painful but pleasurable.

1st-Time Sex is usually painful as it is the mental process of pain a woman go thru. I personally deflower a few gals and each time the reaction is the same. The fear of losing their V cause them 2 form some resistance to the act.

Painful Sex is due tom a few factors:
1. Lack of foreplay to arouse and stimulate before the actual act. Many form the mistake of rushing into it. Try extending 4play a litlle longer.

2. Prolong Sex, by the theory of wear & tear, sex tends to remove some of the vaginal wall lining whic over time will translate to painful sex. I know most of us can't take it but ask the gal if she feels ok, if sex is painful stop and i guess she appreciate you more.

[KCLIM73]

Originally posted by lament

2. Prolong Sex, by the theory of wear & tear, sex tends to remove some of the vaginal wall lining whic over time will translate to painful sex. I know most of us can't take it but ask the gal if she feels ok, if sex is painful stop and i guess she appreciate you more.

WEAR AND TEAR? Are you affirmative on this? I am just wondering cos human bodies, especially the lubricated (hee hee) parts, don't wear out so significantly right? I mean, we guys fuck a lot, but do you see your dick thinning out or skin wearing off?

[Kdajong99]

Originally posted by KCLIM73
WEAR AND TEAR? Are you affirmative on this? I am just wondering cos human bodies, especially the lubricated (hee hee) parts, don't wear out so significantly right? I mean, we guys fuck a lot, but do you see your dick thinning out or skin wearing off?


Your skin do repairs themselves so you will not see a significant or drastic change. But the wear and tear fact should be true.

[MobyDivk]

quote:

WEAR AND TEAR? Are you affirmative on this? I am just wondering cos human bodies, especially the lubricated (hee hee) parts, don't wear out so significantly right? I mean, we guys fuck a lot, but do you see your dick thinning out or skin wearing off?


hehehe u so funny KC....

[mirage]

I have a friend who has married for a year+ and still have not have sex with his wife. His wife cried pain whenever he try to insert. It has been more than 2 years now and I still dont know whether has he succeeded ........

[fun4evergood]

Originally posted by mirage
I have a friend who has married for a year+ and still have not have sex with his wife. His wife cried pain whenever he try to insert. It has been more than 2 years now and I still dont know whether has he succeeded ........

REally? wat a failure............... read more sex book or porn loh

[KID278]

Originally posted by mirage
I have a friend who has married for a year+ and still have not have sex with his wife. His wife cried pain whenever he try to insert. It has been more than 2 years now and I still dont know whether has he succeeded ........

That's a shame....she maybe just having coitophobia which is fear of sexual intercourse or Algophobia which is fear of pain, these are psychological problems....she has to overcome that or the marriage is never going to sustain or hold....wonder what they do getting married and not having sex....your friend better try harder before someone beats him to it....:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

[mirage]

I have taught him all methods (right or wrong??) I know...... more foreplay, use KY, get the right atmosphere, drink wine, seek medical attention etc and apparently, all not successful.

Now he is on his own to decide........

[Rof|maoxz]

Sometimes u cant really blame the husband entirely. Maybe the wife feels that having sex is like committed a sin. :p

Lack of sex can become a huge issue, but the solution is unlikely to be in the bedroom. You need to look at the marriage as a whole, and consider what has changed. You do not mention, for example, whether you have children or not - or if that's an issue.
But that is but one example. You need to find out, and first you need to talk. Not about sex, but about the marriage; not in the bedroom, but somewhere safe and comfortable for you both.

If I am wrong, and it is just a sex thing, it still needs to be discussed, but not at the time - there's already enough tension. If you cannot resolve it between you, do consider confidential counselling. Do also ask her to consider whether it's a medical issue; if she's getting pain, a discharge, or has period or miscarriage problems, she may need to get a thorough check up.
Seek medical advise is the best remedy.

Good Luck.

[mirage]

As far as I know, they are living in harmony. Of course, living together definitely got some fiction here and there. I know the husband for donkey years. He is really an affectionate and caring person and come from a broken family in which he swear will not let history repeat again on him......

I have confidence he can do that.

[Rof|maoxz]

So are you implying that the problem lies with his wife? Protect your friend doesn't help much although your friend seems to have no problem. Den maybe his wife needs more attention that's all.

[KCLIM73]

Originally posted by mirage
As far as I know, they are living in harmony. Of course, living together definitely got some fiction here and there. I know the husband for donkey years. He is really an affectionate and caring person and come from a broken family in which he swear will not let history repeat again on him......

I have confidence he can do that.

Have you tried asking your friend to watch porn with his wife? Sometimes it works. Cos it is important for you to excite the wife too. I mean, for him. Porn opens up the mind as well.

[mirage]

haha, no lar, no hidden msg. I dont mean to protect him.

To me, this is very personal affair lar. I guess right now the only or rather the best solution is to seek medical advise. I dont know that much and not that experience to give appropriate advise.

Told him that and now is up to this couple to act.

[mirage]

Perhaps they have already resorted to porn movies liao. Sometimes I wander it might by psychological barrier

[KCLIM73]

Originally posted by mirage
Perhaps they have already resorted to porn movies liao. Sometimes I wander it might by psychological barrier

Most importantly, let them know that this is a common problem and there is help available.

[KID278]

Originally posted by mirage
I have taught him all methods (right or wrong??) I know...... more foreplay, use KY, get the right atmosphere, drink wine, seek medical attention etc and apparently, all not successful.

Now he is on his own to decide........

Guess you are right, you can only advise but you cant make him decide.....if it's not a medical which includes physical problem then it must be a psychological problem....hope he knows what he's looking at, it's his marriage afterall.....:p

Cheers.
Kid278.

[KID278]

Originally posted by mirage
As far as I know, they are living in harmony. Of course, living together definitely got some fiction here and there. I know the husband for donkey years. He is really an affectionate and caring person and come from a broken family in which he swear will not let history repeat again on him......

I have confidence he can do that.

Life is unpredictable...history repeating itself or not, more often than not is beyond a person's control, it's not one's call....:p

Cheers.
Kid278.

[KID278]

Originally posted by Rof|maoxz
Sometimes u cant really blame the husband entirely. Maybe the wife feels that having sex is like committed a sin. :p

Lack of sex can become a huge issue, but the solution is unlikely to be in the bedroom. You need to look at the marriage as a whole, and consider what has changed. You do not mention, for example, whether you have children or not - or if that's an issue.
But that is but one example. You need to find out, and first you need to talk. Not about sex, but about the marriage; not in the bedroom, but somewhere safe and comfortable for you both.

If I am wrong, and it is just a sex thing, it still needs to be discussed, but not at the time - there's already enough tension. If you cannot resolve it between you, do consider confidential counselling. Do also ask her to consider whether it's a medical issue; if she's getting pain, a discharge, or has period or miscarriage problems, she may need to get a thorough check up.
Seek medical advise is the best remedy.

Good Luck.

Oi! bro Rof....you are confused liao...the couple have not had sex since their marriage...they are having problems trying to have sex and you are talking about having children and miscarriage...:confused:

Cheers.
Kid278.

[foolish_]

Originally posted by mirage
Perhaps they have already resorted to porn movies liao. Sometimes I wander it might by psychological barrier

Since your description is rather vague, its really hard to tell. However, u mentioned that she feels pain the moment he insert, it is most probably a medical problem rather than psychological....consulting a doctor is the only solution.......I guess as a fren, u have already done all u could......:D

[viewsonic]

Originally posted by mirage
Perhaps they have already resorted to porn movies liao. Sometimes I wander it might by psychological barrier

Why not have a oversea holiday trip?
When my wife n i were having our Nz holiday trip, she want it very night. Everynight, she will strip herself naked n hide underneath the warm blanket waiting for me. :D

She really enjoy herself. cool weather, good scenery, good sex. :p

[viewsonic]

Originally posted by playboy23
ya tis is a gd 1..my wife oso din the same when we r in thailand 4 holiday...dunno sme how she more anxious tan me....doing a lot of servicng here n there...on the other hand when we return to spore she change another mood...

Sama Sama, It's right to say, woman is made of water.

Their sex life can be as hot as fire and as cold as ice.

[jazman]

Originally posted by mirage
I have a friend who has married for a year+ and still have not have sex with his wife. His wife cried pain whenever he try to insert. It has been more than 2 years now and I still dont know whether has he succeeded ........

maybe yr friend joking with ya
no way he can tahan for years with sex

[viewsonic]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by jazman
maybe yr friend joking with ya
no way he can tahan for years with sex [/QUOTE

This kind of people do exist in this world.
A friend of mine who is coming to 30y.o. has not idea which hole to poke when having sex.:D

[fun4evergood]

Originally posted by viewsonic
[QUOTE]Originally posted by jazman
maybe yr friend joking with ya
no way he can tahan for years with sex [/QUOTE

This kind of people do exist in this world.
A friend of mine who is coming to 30y.o. has not idea which hole to poke when having sex.:D

No wonder nowadays.....school does include sex education.

[KCLIM73]

Originally posted by viewsonic
[QUOTE]Originally posted by jazman
maybe yr friend joking with ya
no way he can tahan for years with sex [/QUOTE

This kind of people do exist in this world.
A friend of mine who is coming to 30y.o. has not idea which hole to poke when having sex.:D

But at least the girl will know right? Unless suay suay the girl also dunno... but quite naturally, the girl will want it where it feels good...so....

but wtf....30 yo still dunno a bit jiat lat leh... library got books right?

[foolish_]

Originally posted by KCLIM73
But at least the girl will know right? Unless suay suay the girl also dunno... but quite naturally, the girl will want it where it feels good...so....

but wtf....30 yo still dunno a bit jiat lat leh... library got books right?

Seriously speaking....I remembered reading in the papers that there was a doctor who claimed that a married couple could not have sex for almost a year because the guy could not find the entrance......:)

[Kdajong99]

Originally posted by foolish_
Seriously speaking....I remembered reading in the papers that there was a doctor who claimed that a married couple could not have sex for almost a year because the guy could not find the entrance......:)


I think they better call the bros here for help. Sure can guide them the right way, show them how to also no problem. :D

[KID278]

Originally posted by foolish_
Seriously speaking....I remembered reading in the papers that there was a doctor who claimed that a married couple could not have sex for almost a year because the guy could not find the entrance......:)

That doctor must be drunk or that couple must be the silliest humans on earth.....hehe....:D

Cheers.
Kid278.

[KCLIM73]

Originally posted by foolish_
Seriously speaking....I remembered reading in the papers that there was a doctor who claimed that a married couple could not have sex for almost a year because the guy could not find the entrance......:)

The papers never write how old the couple is? Maybe 9 and 10. :D

[KCLIM73]

Originally posted by playboy23
the guy got a problem to decide which hole to enter....i tink he is confused..worry tat he wil cause unembrassment to his wife and it may end up like a sm which enventually wil shock his wife.:o

Huh?!? You mean, almost going at it already? Cock and vagina in view and still never have sex? Geesh!

[KCLIM73]

Originally posted by playboy23
the guy got a problem to decide which hole to enter....i tink he is confused..worry tat he wil cause unembrassment to his wife and it may end up like a sm which enventually wil shock his wife.:o

All holes are valid holes wat!

a. Mouth - blowjob
b. ass - ass-fuck (whatever you call it, mental block)
c. vagina - fuck job.

What other holes are there? Where else can one put the prick? Armpit?!

[KCLIM73]

Originally posted by playboy23
hey u canot catch the ball ah...u jialet lah....u say wat other holes..yr mother holes loh...na be chow chee by...u r asking to been fuck...

Yah...I really don't catch your ball. Dun know what the fuck you talking. Young man, better watch your language.